Parenting Styles: The good, the bad and the ugly
There are four main styles of parenting that parents tend to embody. They are Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive & Uninvolved parenting. There are a number of factors that will influence your parenting style including social influencers and culture. Each different parenting style will impact the development of the child in different ways. So, how is your parenting style affecting your child?
Authoritarian parents set very strict rules for their children to follow and they are expected to follow those rules at all times. Authoritarian parents don’t like to be questioned, and when they are, they often respond with “Because I said so.” Authoritarian parents are very focused on obedience and status, however they are not always very responsive to their child. They also use punishment as discipline.
PROS: Children of Authoritarian parents are very obedient and proficient individuals. They tend to do quite well in school.
CONS: They rank lowest in terms of happiness, social competence and self-esteem compared to children of other parenting styles.
Authoritative parents also like to set rules and guidelines for their children. However, they differ from Authoritarian parents here because they use these guidelines to empower their children. Authoritative parents are more democratic in their rule setting and they will listen to questions and answer them with measured responses. They also use assertive discipline measures as opposed to punishment.
PROS: Children tend to rank happiest, most socially competent and have the highest self-esteem.
CONS: Can be difficult for parents to remain consistent when dealing with a particularly outgoing child. Otherwise, there are generally no ‘cons’ in relation to the impact it has on the child.
Permissive parents are extremely loving and put hardly any guidelines in place for their child. They are very focused on being their child’s ‘friend’. Permissive parents often don’t take part in discipline as they have fairly low expectations of maturity and self-control.
PROS: As permissive parents tend to relate to their child on a ‘friend’ level, they often have a deeper understanding of their child. This can allow for more open communication as their child transitions into adolescence.
CONS: Although they are very ‘loved’, these children often feel lonely. They also grow up believing that their actions will never have consequences as they have never experienced boundaries.
Uninvolved parents show little interest in their child. They barely communicate with them and put no demands on them. This can cause extremely serious negative outcomes on these children as they grow up.
PROS: There are no documented pros of this parenting style.
CONS: Children of this parenting style are often very hostile and can become very aggressive as they grow up. They have extremely low self-esteem and social competence.
So which parenting style do you use and why? I would love to hear in the comments below!